Seeking Deeper Human Kindness

Relating

Human Kindness is grounded in the idea that each and every person that we interact with in life is inherently precious and worthy. We actually live out kindness when we base our interactions with others on an intentional, heart-felt, and authentic empathy for them.

Think about how genuine kindness is nurtured and manifested in our own lives… particularly in these unprecedented, trying, and difficult times.

Presence

Are we truly ‘present’ in our acts of kindness toward others, expending something of ourselves—or are we simply giving something from ourselves? Are we authentically joining the other person in some way, even if only virtually—or emotionally withdrawing and watching our impact only from afar?

Investment

Are we extending kindness with some sacrifice on our part—or simply sharing out of our abundance and surplus? How willing are we to take on some risk or even rejection for extending kindness toward another? How much of our time and our ‘self’ is invested in the recipient, if we’re being honest?

Conditionality

Are we offering kindness with no expectations of reciprocation or with a wish for something in return from the recipient? If it’s the latter, it may not actually be kindness… but rather an act of bargaining with another in some fashion. If it’s the former, our kindness is likely to be more real.

Familiarity

Is our kindness toward others inclusive and expansive, extended beyond our families, friends, and closest neighbors? Or is it offered most closely and rigidly only to people who live, think, believe, and look just like us? If our circles are guarded, exclusive, and biased, it’s probably more about ‘belonging’ than it is about actual kindness on our parts.

Mindset

Are we acting kindly with the right ‘heart’? With intentionality based on authentic love, compassion, empathy, respect, acceptance, care, and concern for another? Or is it only out of our feelings of obligation, guilt, or responsibility toward somebody else?

Self

Whose needs are we trying to meet by being kind to another person: the recipient’s or our own? Are we being kind in order to make the other individual feel good… or to make us feel better about ourselves? If our acts of kindness are grounded in how we want to be seen and not based on our true heart, maybe it’s all about ourselves and not the recipient.

Our acts of human kindness toward others are rarely ‘either-or’ dualisms. In other words, we’re neither fully kind nor exclusively unkind on a consistent basis in all our interactions. Instead, our interpersonal encounters are often complicated and situational. This is the very nature of our ongoing, sometimes bumpy and uneven, journeys of intentionally becoming more ‘whole’, enlightened, and loving. That’s especially true in turbulant times of anxiety, loss, and uncertainty such as we’re all facing now. Nonetheless, we can all strive to extend and receive more unconditional, genuine, inclusive, and heart-felt kindness each and every day…